Trewbella Photography<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\nRecently I did something that reminded me again how\nimportant it is to look after yourself, first and foremost.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
On top of my usual work week, I did a non stop 18 hour plus\nday on the back of a few consecutive nights of minimal sleep, backing up the next\nday to finish it off the project. At the\nend of that if you had a poked a fork in me I would have screamed I\u2019m DONE.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Problem is I wasn\u2019t, I still had responsibilities, travel,\nwork etc to round out the week and it was only Tuesday. I got through Monday and Tuesday ok but it\ntrickled into everyday thereafter, I missed exercise, was functioning at a sub\npar level and I also question whether the product produced at that level of\nfatigue I was even as good as it could have been if my time had been managed\nbetter.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I missed exercise, sleep, routine and now when I should be\nout and about I\u2019m crashing. A timely reminder to sit back and take a breath,\nreset and look after number 1.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Most people who know me know that I\u2019m pretty big on\nplanning. Time is important to me and I always try to be aware and value others\ntime as well. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
I don\u2019t always get it right, in fact often I\u2019m running\naround trying to jam as many things in back to back as possible.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I\u2019m not the only person that has ever pulled a big day,\npulled out all stops to get a project done on deadline and I am unlikely to be\nthe last.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The CIA lists Sleep Deprivation as a source of Torture so\nwhy do we often try to burn the candle at both ends. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Burning the Candle at both ends, we throw around way too\noften as if it\u2019s a badge of honour. Its not something to be proud of. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Lack of sleep inhibits brain function, which then impacts\nthe choices you make around you. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
VIC ROADS says that by being awake for 18 hours you\u2019ve have\na perceived Blood Alcohol Level of .05<\/p>\n\n\n\nSometimes we try to squeeze as much as possible into every\nday. Putting others needs before our\nown. Ultimately we are the ones who\nsuffer.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I\u2019m not just preaching, I\u2019ve lived it. I used to run around doing as much as I could\nfor everyone else. If someone needed something I did it. It\u2019s still very much in my DNA to want to\nhelp others. If I needed something, I also did it. I didn\u2019t love asking others\nfor anything.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I pushed myself so hard that I burnt that candle so far down\nthat there was nothing left to reignite.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Even when I started to get sick I kept pushing, then I ended\nup with kidney failure amongst other things and was running on a total of 8\npercent function. My body was so broken\nthat I couldn\u2019t even lift a cup of coffee, I actually couldn\u2019t even enjoy a\ncoffee anyway because it made me sick. \nI\u2019d been so independent and self sufficient and selfless but all of a\nsudden ( in hindsight it wasn\u2019t sudden). \nI had no fire or blame left in me at all. I was forced to take a break or die. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Actually making myself take the break, removing myself from\ntoxicity around me and concentrate solely on me was one of the hardest mental\nbattles to have. A lot of self worth\nsometimes is built up around what you bring to the table. In the end I had nothing to bring, and\ninstead I had everything to lose if I didn\u2019t change. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
I had to take at least two years off full time work. Two\nyears to someone who rarely took a day off from anything and I had to\ncompletely rebuild and still am building my capacity. The body is amazing and resilent, nothing <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Basically by trying to squeeze as much into the time that I\nhad everyday I ended up losing a big chunk of it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
My friends got married, had kids, got careers and bought\nhouses. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
What did I do, I survived. \n<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I evolved and I learnt to try not to take things for\ngranted. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Think of me as an old classic restored car. A labour of love, that has some features now\nthat weren\u2019t necessarily factory issued and that has a tendency to break down a\nbit if not cared for properly. I have adapted\nsomewhat but can\u2019t necessarily do everything now that I could of if I had of\njust taken the time to care for it right from the start. Some days it takes me\na bit longer to kick the motor over, some days the car should just sit in\ngarage and not go anywhere as it\u2019s overheated. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
I appreciate what I have now, but man I wish I\u2019d appreciated\nmyself more before.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you\u2019re always FOMOing. \n<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Fear this\u2026. \u201cI\u2019ll\nsleep when I\u2019m dead\u201d is quite possibly the most ironic saying that people throw\naround way too flippantly. Bon Jovi has\na lot to answer for.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Lack of sleep and self care may just be what kills you in\nthe end.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"Sometimes, things just have to get done and when you\u2019re in that space that one job takes precendence. Self care is often confused with but does not equal being SELFISH. Ultimately by practicing it more, you will have more of yourself to give long term. Recently I did something that reminded me again how important […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":10,"featured_media":12949,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[289],"tags":[],"yoast_head":"\n
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